Etiquette Problem

I don't have time to write Miss Manners so maybe someone out there can help me.

Four years ago I spent one evening a week assisting an art teacher. This went on for almost two years. We weren't super close friends but I respected her work and she was very generous.

It had been almost a year since I heard from her when she sent me an e-mail November 7. She said she is retiring from teaching and having a party on December 2 - could she have my address? I replied to the e-mail, congratulating her and sent my address.

I have not recevied the invitation. What do I do? I don't want her to think I'm snubbing her. At the same time, I'm not going to be disappointed if I don't go.

1. It's possible she never got my e-mail. I don't know how that would have happened but it could have. I know she has my phone number. If she never recevied a reply to her e-mail, she could have called. I can only assume that she chose not pursue it and that's o.k. with me.



2. I think calling her might be rude. "Hey, are you having that party this weekend?" What if she decided not to invite me after all? What if she invited someone in my place?



3. I can't just show up. I don't know what time it is. I don't know where it is and I don't even know if it is still on.

What do you suggest?